School shootings are becoming the norm in this country. And while I do think the VA Tech incident had a myriad of factors that precipitated it, I am using it as a segue for my thoughts. Was the shooter at VA Tech a product of America’s child raising policies? One can only speculate.
But school shootings are becoming common place.
So why does this sort of thing happen? It’s not weak gun laws, a lack of cops roaming the halls of high schools, lame campus police, or negligent drug companies. It all starts at home. There, I said it. It…STARTS AT HOME. Or, in the case of America, the lack of time the kids get to spend AT HOME with their parents.
As Americans we have distanced ourselves from our children. We have to in order to dull the aching reality that we have handed the care, nurture, education, character development, and moral training to daycare centers, schools, and after school care.
Here is the life of a typical American kid: At six weeks Jr. goes to daycare for 6-9 hours a day. Once she is three (as many states are pushing for) she goes to a nice preschool that offers ‘after hours’ care. After that it’s on to the public schools where they can go early for breakfast and stay in after school care until mom can pick them up. All told, the child spends more than half of his/her waking life in the care of those outside of the home. Because of this, the last several generations suffer from various forms and degrees of attachment disorders.
Does any thinking person really wonder why America’s children are a little edgy?
And we are not only abandoning our children, we are afraid to assert any authority over them.
Case in point:
Today, while grocery shopping, I witnessed a young mother wilting under the authority of her child. This little girl screamed, and I mean screamed, throughout their entire shopping spree. People were literally stopping in the aisles to roll their eyes or offer looks of condolences to the mother. Some, like me, were more than ready to offer to watch her cart while she took her little ‘darling’ out to the car. This mother cajoled, negotiated, and scolded her little…girl.
In the paper goods aisle a woman asked me, “Has that little girl been screaming the whole time?” I replied in the affirmative. Then I ventured out into the politically incorrect realm and said, “I don’t think she knows who the mother is. That little girl needs a spanking.” (Reminder: I live in the great, liberal, be-nice-to-everyone-but-conservatives state of Washington. I was flirting with excommunication here.)
The woman nodded her head in a clandestine fashion and said in a low voice, “Yes, she does. But you know what will happen if mom does spank her.” And what might that be? Well, the government nannies would repel from the ceiling Monsters Inc. style, rescue the child and put mom in containment.
And there is the rub and the hub of the problem in this country. We are afraid of our own children; afraid to give them the Biblical discipline they so desperately need because we are afraid of the state’s power to punish us or take our babes away. In short, we are afraid to take our God-given responsibility in raising our children seriously because we’ve believed the lie that the state knows better.
So we let our kids scream. We don’t discipline them. We let them scream. And when they enter school their screams turn into behaviors that bring teachers to the brink of insanity because they aren’t allowed to discipline them either. Johnny won’t sit still. He can’t concentrate. He assaulted the principal. It is obvious he hasn’t been trained to control himself, but that is beside the point. The answer: Medicate him. After several years on the mind-numbing drug, Ritalin, Jr. still has no idea how to control his emotions. The next logical step: “Johnny’s got a gun” (to the tune of Aerosmith). The result is splashed over newspapers nationwide.
Think on this: Our kids are killing each other.
And to add more kerosene to the fire, they have no fear of authority.
This vicious cycle is brought to you by the “It Isn’t Nice To Spank Your Kids” coalition with additional funding provided by the “Let the State Raise Your Kids” foundation. How do we ever thank them?
Am I making unfair assumptions about the upbringing of school shooters? About the VA Tech shooter’s upbringing? Maybe. But sadly, the odds that I’m right are in my favor. I’m not out to malign them but the question begs to be asked, “How bad does it need to get before parents stop living in fear and take their children back?”
At the risk of coming across as some kind of conspiracy theorist, I want to recommend a book that I feel is a must read for all parents. It isn’t a book on parenting styles, educating your child, or helpful tips for the harried family. It’s a book about the Holocaust. It’s about what happens when parents abdicate their God ordained authority over their children and give it to the state. The book is called PARALLEL JOURNEYS by Alfons Heck. Before you dismiss me, humor me and read it.